Lives of Quiet Desolation – The Morning Wride

Bridge over lives of quiet desolation.

I realize the quote is “lives of quiet desperation”, but my daughter took issue with the word desperation. Her point? Desperation at least hints of hope. Desolation conveys a more hopeless landscape. I can buy that. In fact, I agree with her. I see people every day who gave up on their dreams and aspirations.

And why not? At every turn in life, people come into our lives beating us down with negativity. We suffer the backhanded criticisms, the “devil’s advocate” syndrome, the naysayers, and the nonsupportive inputs. A number of my friends and acquaintances feel it their duty to tell my why something won’t work or why the idea did not work for them or any number of negative responses.

People, in this world today, we need positive support. We need to surround ourselves with ‘can-do’ supporters who will lend a hand. Yes, a time and place for studying potential unfavorable possibilities can buoy a project. What must happen first delivers the tone of assistance.

When a person plays devil’s advocate from the outset, this person does not positively support your idea. Their reasons can run the gamut of life, from past poor experiences with the idea to jealousy. I agree with the mentality of upgrading the people you hang with the most to a level of positive energy.

Sounds almost crass, doesn’t it? Change your circle of friends? Is this truly “right”?

When the crowd you run with drags down your dreams and aspirations, why continue to allow the chipping away effect on your life to go on? Along with dramatic events, the slow demoralization of your life can lead to a life of quiet desolation.

As I wrote yesterday about television, I see people giving up on their lives. Why be creative? Why put forth effort? My support team will only shoot down my dreams and passions. Let me go watch four hours of television. Let me go veg out on the computer for eight hours.

This quiet desolation runs rampant in our teenagers. Children by the millions in this country believe they actually accomplish something when they kill a few thousand zombies on their computer games. All they actually achieve turns out to be addiction to a product someone else created. The children do not progress to creativity. They do not go out and make something special of their days. They simply play with their electrons and one day wake up into quiet desolation.

I’ve observed my own children get so immersed in a game that all semblance of reality becomes, in the least, an aggravation. I fear for our current generation of teenagers. So many gave up on life before they even truly entered the arena. Our pathetic school systems and government don’t care to do anything of value to change this. And why would the government want a change?

Keep the people fairly uneducated and unambitious and you can control them as long as you provide them with food and shelter. Pretty disgusting times we live in. Fortunately, we do have teenagers who aspire to create and develop and progress forward. In them lay our hope.

I would love to see a major reduction in the quiet lives of desolation in this country. What positive effect can you instill into this day? Random acts of positivity can be infectious. When you take a few moments to compliment a stranger, you never know what ripple effect you may create. What if each of us brightened up ten strangers’ days each day? What do you think would happen in this country?

I already hear the pessimists poo-pooing the idea as Pollyanna. When I look at such a radical change, I see huge success. The change must begin somewhere. We don’t possess a magic light switch which will automatically inspire folk to be nice to one another. Yet, positivity can be contagious. Lifting up someone’s day could ripple through many lives.

Arguments derailed simply because one kind person helped someone under stress feel better about themselves. Heavy-handed discipline reduced because a frazzled parent received some relief in their day.

Why do we accept the current apathy in our country? Why do we believe we own no hope? Why do fellow citizens walk around every day in lives of quiet desolation?

I submit to you that you and I don’t step up enough to lift someone else’s day. We need to help those around us every day even more than the occasional stranger. We should encourage their dreams, their aspirations, their goals. Each of us hold within ourselves a wealth of knowledge on some subject that would help others.

I say, find that knowledge and help people. Lift up the people in your life who can’t or won’t step forward due to their desolation. Don’t give them a one-time boost or compliment and expect a radical change. Lift the people in your life up daily. Impact your world. Help others to find that bridge over the wastelands of lives of quiet desolation.

Like the flight attendants on jets tell you, place the oxygen mask on your own face first so you may better serve those in need around you. Switch your outlook on life to positive, then help others do the same.

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10 thoughts on “Lives of Quiet Desolation – The Morning Wride

  1. Well said, Michael

    • Thanks Tim! I appreciate you reblogging this as well. It was great talking with you last night.

  2. I agree 100% that we need to support and encourage each other, especially kids!

    Everything is possible, for the individual and for all of us as a whole. Peace. Prosperity—a world that runs on the energy of kindness.

    I think the best thing to do for the pessimists is to smile and find someone else to share dreams with. If they are cut out of the lives of the optimists, they will never witness success. How else will they ever understand what magic is possible when desire meets hard work?

    Keep up the great work, Mike!

    • Hi Deb!

      I totally agree with you on the pessimists needing to see the magic that is possible when desire meets hard work. I still maintain my friendships with these folk, but, like you mentioned, I’ve found others to share the dreams with. That is such a key factor in keeping yourself alive and in the moment where you can consistently be creative as well as producing positive motion toward your goals.

      You are so kind to pop in and comment. I truly appreciate your input. Thank you Deb!

  3. I think that when you become the positive force for others, that also increases your own success, and helps you become the person you want to be. There is a fine line though, between being a naysayer, and being someone who helps people achieve their goals. We all need to encourage others, but when something is clearly not something they are ready for, we should challenge them to improve. “Real life” only gives each of us a few chances, and it doesn’t accept mediocrity. I find myself sometimes struggling with criticism, trying to see if it is constructive, if I’m missing something, or if it’s just a negative person. For those that can keep their dreams, and turn their desperation into action, there is no one standing in the way.

    • Hi Daniel,

      I agree. Encouraging someone in that which will not help is doing them a major disservice. Too often these days, I see and/or experience people tearing down someone’s dream without first supporting them. For too many years I was surrounded by those who “naturally” do this. I held myself back. When you surround yourself with a group of “encouragers” the hurdles you must face become a rallying point of discussion and masterminding rather than flat out dismissal.

      The writing community has taught me well in the ‘constructive criticism’ arena. It’s a shame we must evaluate whether critiques are genuine or simply from a negatively oriented person. Keeping your dreams I feel is paramount to living a full life. Sadly, I see so many who’ve lost theirs.

      Personally I welcome critique from those who I know have my best interest at heart. They prove this in many ways. There are those, though, who will look for the worst in anything I do first. Then grudgingly concede if/when my endeavor is successful. These people do not need to be central to where I’m going.

      Your comment is EXCELLENT as it addresses the reality of what we face. Turning dreams into action indeed removes many from standing in your way. Thank you!

      • You are 100% correct. I love this perspective. I wrote a blog post similar to it about “Saying Yes.” I think that the bottom line is negative things are going to come, whether it be a criticism, a rejection, a setback. But each of us has to decide what we want our lives to be, and then not let anyone deter us from that vision. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it a nice affirmation of what’s in my head, and what I’m trying (with much resistance) to live.

      • When in Charleston, I always found myslef by the water when I needed quiet time with God. It was as if you could feel his strength and love with every crash of the waves.Now that I’m back in Georgia,it has been an easy transition to just being outdoors, hearing the birds, feeling the mountain breeze It seems for me my Father is in the nature around me and I find great comfort in that.

      • A positive mindset and heart is wonderful. While I’ve felt the power and some peace at the ocean, I much prefer the mountains. Breezes in the mountains are the best, aren’t they?

  4. Daniel,

    Thank you, especially for that last sentence. I find comfort in knowing I’m not the only one striving to move forward “with much resistance”.

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