Bridge over lives of quiet desolation.
I realize the quote is “lives of quiet desperation”, but my daughter took issue with the word desperation. Her point? Desperation at least hints of hope. Desolation conveys a more hopeless landscape. I can buy that. In fact, I agree with her. I see people every day who gave up on their dreams and aspirations.
And why not? At every turn in life, people come into our lives beating us down with negativity. We suffer the backhanded criticisms, the “devil’s advocate” syndrome, the naysayers, and the nonsupportive inputs. A number of my friends and acquaintances feel it their duty to tell my why something won’t work or why the idea did not work for them or any number of negative responses.
People, in this world today, we need positive support. We need to surround ourselves with ‘can-do’ supporters who will lend a hand. Yes, a time and place for studying potential unfavorable possibilities can buoy a project. What must happen first delivers the tone of assistance.
When a person plays devil’s advocate from the outset, this person does not positively support your idea. Their reasons can run the gamut of life, from past poor experiences with the idea to jealousy. I agree with the mentality of upgrading the people you hang with the most to a level of positive energy.
Sounds almost crass, doesn’t it? Change your circle of friends? Is this truly “right”?
When the crowd you run with drags down your dreams and aspirations, why continue to allow the chipping away effect on your life to go on? Along with dramatic events, the slow demoralization of your life can lead to a life of quiet desolation.
As I wrote yesterday about television, I see people giving up on their lives. Why be creative? Why put forth effort? My support team will only shoot down my dreams and passions. Let me go watch four hours of television. Let me go veg out on the computer for eight hours.
This quiet desolation runs rampant in our teenagers. Children by the millions in this country believe they actually accomplish something when they kill a few thousand zombies on their computer games. All they actually achieve turns out to be addiction to a product someone else created. The children do not progress to creativity. They do not go out and make something special of their days. They simply play with their electrons and one day wake up into quiet desolation.
I’ve observed my own children get so immersed in a game that all semblance of reality becomes, in the least, an aggravation. I fear for our current generation of teenagers. So many gave up on life before they even truly entered the arena. Our pathetic school systems and government don’t care to do anything of value to change this. And why would the government want a change?
Keep the people fairly uneducated and unambitious and you can control them as long as you provide them with food and shelter. Pretty disgusting times we live in. Fortunately, we do have teenagers who aspire to create and develop and progress forward. In them lay our hope.
I would love to see a major reduction in the quiet lives of desolation in this country. What positive effect can you instill into this day? Random acts of positivity can be infectious. When you take a few moments to compliment a stranger, you never know what ripple effect you may create. What if each of us brightened up ten strangers’ days each day? What do you think would happen in this country?
I already hear the pessimists poo-pooing the idea as Pollyanna. When I look at such a radical change, I see huge success. The change must begin somewhere. We don’t possess a magic light switch which will automatically inspire folk to be nice to one another. Yet, positivity can be contagious. Lifting up someone’s day could ripple through many lives.
Arguments derailed simply because one kind person helped someone under stress feel better about themselves. Heavy-handed discipline reduced because a frazzled parent received some relief in their day.
Why do we accept the current apathy in our country? Why do we believe we own no hope? Why do fellow citizens walk around every day in lives of quiet desolation?
I submit to you that you and I don’t step up enough to lift someone else’s day. We need to help those around us every day even more than the occasional stranger. We should encourage their dreams, their aspirations, their goals. Each of us hold within ourselves a wealth of knowledge on some subject that would help others.
I say, find that knowledge and help people. Lift up the people in your life who can’t or won’t step forward due to their desolation. Don’t give them a one-time boost or compliment and expect a radical change. Lift the people in your life up daily. Impact your world. Help others to find that bridge over the wastelands of lives of quiet desolation.
Like the flight attendants on jets tell you, place the oxygen mask on your own face first so you may better serve those in need around you. Switch your outlook on life to positive, then help others do the same.